The Importance Of Alone Time With Your Spouse


Alone time with your spouse is crucially important for the strength of your marriage. Regardless of the length of time, you need have to connect by having an adult conversation with NO interruptions  My hubs and I had to be creative in this area due to the fact that our work schedules fluctuate so frequently.

In the beginning we tried scheduling a time during the week when both of our schedules were clear but with 3 boyz that time always became occupied with something else. Then we tried one night a week putting the boyz to bed early enough were we could "catch up", much like our date night, but again between overtime and adrenaline that time became filled with something else. 

Then during a group discussion with some friends we all came up with the idea of making our "alone" times happen as soon as we got together with our spouses. Meaning the minute we were home at the same time we had 15-30 minutes of alone time to talk and catch up. Because weather something is ailing us or if we are excited about something, being able to tell each other while looking into one’s eyes and having that specific touch at just the right time, has so much more significance than over the phone conversations or Skype.
 
Well the first week we tried this, our boyz became frustrated because they missed daddy as much as I did. So my hubs sat them down and explained to them the importance of mommy and daddy having some adult conversations without any interruptions....that is when we realized that our oldest could compromise ;-)

The conclusion of that conversation was that the boyz would greet daddy at the door with hugs and kisses, then he could go talk to mommy while they (the boyz) played and waited their turn. Then they would take turns telling daddy about their day. This has worked fabulously for the past 2 years.

Jack Kornfield once said "When we get too caught up in the busyness of the world, we lose connection with one another...and ourselves"
Alone time is important for the sanity of our marriage, like Jack said without connection we lose each other.

What are some ways you connect with your spouse?

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