Love Challenge~Day 5

Today's challenge we are discussing marriage and in-laws........Those of you that have a wonderful and open relationship with you in-laws, I envy you, for my relationship with my in-laws is not so wonderful =0( In fact we don't have much of a relationship at all. Now don't get me wrong it isn't all bad, I DO love them, I just love them in a different way. Let me explain;

My hubs and I come from 2 entirely different back grounds. My family is very close (all of us) and his is not so much ;-) In the beginning all was good, until we had children. I wanted to raise our children one way and he...not so much. I blamed is family for absolutely EVERYTHING we ever went though. I was very good at pointing fingers and it wasn't til one Thanksgiving I realized exactly what they had done. Though there were many (several) traits that drove me crazy about my hubs there were even more that he refused to copy and in that I saw exactly how their very hands helped shape my hubs into who he is today.

After we climbed OUR Mount Everest, I took the opportunity to look down and see all that we had gone through in a different light. As hard as it was I was able to have that ah-ha moment, where it all began to make sense. Though that does not mean I agree on anything they do or have done it does mean I love them as a part of my hubs.

Janelle highlighted these Bible verses on her guest post with Time-Warp Wife;

“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And a person's enemies will be those of his own household." ~ Matthew 10:34-36

"They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law." ~Luke 12:53


"For a son dishonors his father, a daughter rises up against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law--a man's enemies are the members of his own household"~Micha 7:6


"From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three." ~Luke 12:52


The Bible is warning us of division in families!! Jesus brought us the sword of righteousness that defends against this division!! and I vow to use it!

Regardless of how they must feel towards me I choose love, I chose God's way to love one another refusing to let satan control my feelings about the ones that God saw my hubs in. How do I do this? Well Janelle has given me conformation that I am on the right track ;-)
  • I pray for them continuously
  • I allow God to work though me on any issues that may come about, I hand it over to Him the minute they rise.
  • I do not belittle anyone in front of my hubs or our children (that goes for any and everyone!)
  • I keep an open invitation not just to family functions but for everyday, my door never shuts.
PLEASE do not try and read between the lines or insinuate the way things may be, I truly love my in-laws. Our relationship may not sound perfect but so far it has worked for us ;-) However today's challenge is a CHALLENGE for me!

Invite your in-laws over for dinner this week. If they live far, call them or Skype with them with your children. Take one extra step than you typically do. You can do this. If you are close with your in-laws (as Janelle is) this will be super easy. Don't know what to make? Come visit Janelle over at Comfy in the Kitchen for some delicious recipes!

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